What is the WILL of God for My Life?

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What is the Will of God for my Life?

As a spiritual leader, I get asked this question quite often:


Or, What do you think God wants me to do?

Normally the conversation starts off with a question about direction and then a statement that expresses a sincere desire to know what’s next. 

When the person realizes that I’m not going to give them specific details or tell them exactly what’s going to happen next; the conversation normally begins to morph into a prayer request.

At this point, he or she is basically asking me to pray for God to reveal what HIS Will is for their life. Although, this is a noble prayer request and I normally seek God on that person’s behalf; it is NOT the way that God desires for His Will to be revealed to His Children.

God’s desire is for us to learn what His Will is by getting to know Him.

As a spiritual leader, I am honored and thankful for the opportunity to share wisdom and knowledge with others; but my greatest insight could NEVER compare to what a person receives when they develop an intimate relationship with God.

Whether you are a new believer, longtime Christian or just simply interested in this subject: my hope is that the remainder of this blog encourages you, inspires you and empowers you to learn and live in the WILL OF GOD.

Before we get into the details of “How to know” the Will of God, it’s important to understand that the Will of God branches into three major categories:

God's Desired Will

God's Permissible Will

God's Sovereign Will

These three are different yet they all are still the Will of God and somehow collectively help to serve the purposes of God.

1. God's Desired Will

Simply put, God’s “DESIRED WILL” is what He wants: It’s also His commands or His specific instructions.

God is not slacking concerning His promises but He is patient because He does not want anyone to perish; but desires for all to come to repentance  ~ 2nd Peter 3:9

Repentance is a change of heart and a change of mind that ultimately leads to a change in our actions.

Notice, in the Bible verse above; God clearly expresses that He doesn’t want anyone to perish and that His desire is for all to repent; but unfortunately as you know, some will not repent.

This makes it clear that we as people have our own Will and that God’s desired Will for us doesn’t always happen.

Some people may be disturbed by this statement, but let me help you

If God had created us without a Will of our own, then there would be no need for His desired Will because everyone would do exactly what they were suppose to, when they were suppose to do it.

So God, in His infinite wisdom poured out His amazing love to us and gave us a WILL so that we could choose to love Him or reject Him. He did not want us to be forced to love Him like a bunch of robots because that wouldn’t be love at all.

Instead, He gave us a choice; and His desired WILL is for us to choose to love Him with all of our heart. God’s desired WILL is normally what people want to know about when they ask the question........“What is God’s Will for my life?”

2. God's Permissive Will

God’s “PERMISSIVE WILL” is basically anything that He allows. There are some things that God permits but that doesn’t necessarily mean that He wants it to happen.

With that being said, there are many times when God will use something negative that He permitted to fulfill something positive that He desired all along.

I will openly admit to you that God’s permissive Will can be difficult to accept and even comprehend because sometimes it ties into His desired Will and other times it seems to challenge His sovereignty.

For example: God’s permissive WILL may have allowed for a baby to die in a car crash but then His desired Will was accomplished as well because now the baby will be in heaven.

The challenge comes when the parents of the baby know that God is sovereign and He could have stopped the car from crashing in the first place.

This type of situation has happened to me on many occasions; where something tragic has happened and I’m wondering why God allowed it to happen to me or someone I love.

This is why having a relationship with God is so important because He gives us understanding and comfort in the midst of whatever He’s doing or allowing. Two of my favorite scriptures are......

“The sufferings of this present time will not be able to compare to the Glory that will be revealed in us ~Romans 8:18

 “ALL THINGS are working for the good of those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose”  ~Romans 8:28.

So, even if God allows something through His permissive Will; we have to trust that God knows what He’s doing and that it's all going to work out for us in the end!

3. God's Sovereign Will

God’s “SOVEREIGN WILL” is a combination of His desired and permissive Will. Basically, this Will is what He wants, what He allows and what He makes happen.

His sovereign Will may at times be intertwined into our decisions but other times has NO connection to what we will or will not do.

A perfect example of God’s sovereign Will is when He sent His SON Jesus do die on the cross for our sins: There is nothing that anyone could have done to stop Jesus from dying for us.

There was nothing or no decision that a person could have made to keep Jesus from rising from the dead. These events were going to happen because it was God’s sovereign Will; which happened to be His desired Will as well.

After seeing a breakdown of God’s Will, it is clear that the Bible, history and your own experience; contains events, stories, people and instructions that express the three categories of the Will of God in some way.

With that being said, in this next section we will mostly focus on how to know the “DESIRED WILL” of God and what or who He uses to reveal it to us.

IMPORTANT REMINDER: In the opening paragraph I made it clear that in order to truly know the Will of God or to know what He wants; you have to first get to know Him.


1. The Bible (Written Word)

God’s written Word is His Will and as believers and followers of Christ, we believe that the Bible contains the written Word of God.  

As you hear, read or study the Bible, it’s important that you DON'T just see it as an account of history but as a love letter from God and a life-giving instruction manual that applies to you today.


The WORDS in the Bible illuminate where you are and gives you light to see where you should be going .... Read (Psalm 119:105).

The WORDS within the Bible are bread to the hungry, water to the thirsty and a weapon to the warrior..... Read  (Matthew 4:4) (Matthew 5:6) (Ephesians 6:17) (Hebrews 4:12).

The WORDS written in the Bible are God breathed and it is beneficial for correction and training in how to do things right.... Read (2nd Timothy 3:16).

As you can see, the scriptures contained in the Bible should be a significant part of your life and should play a critical role in what you do on a daily basis.

At this point I know that some of you are still wondering about specific things or asking questions like.......

“What job should I take, who should I marry, where should I live or what Church should I attend?”

Well, we will get into those details in the next few sections; but honestly, a lot of your questions can easily be answered by you truly submitting to what God has already written. "Smile"

2. Holy Spirit:

In the previous section, we learned that the written Word is the Will of God: So, it is very important to understand that the Holy Spirit does not contradict the written Word but works in beautiful harmony with it because He is the one who wrote it... Read (2nd Peter 1:21) & (2nd Timothy 3:16).

If you are a born again believer, then you have the Holy Spirit inside of you and according to the Words of Christ;  (the Holy Spirit) will guide you and lead you into all truth.

The Holy Spirit knows the Will of God because He is God! Most people treat the Holy Spirit as if He is just some force that was talked about by God the Son and sent by God the Father.

The Holy Spirit is more than a force, more than chill bumps, more than an emotional expression of praise: He is God and He desires to fellowship with us, empower us and lead us daily.

The Holy Spirit is our gift giver, fruit bearer, comforter, advocate and our helper.

Developing your relationship with the Holy Spirit comes through prayer, study of the scriptures, Faith, worship, obedience and quietly listening for Him to speak.

The more time you spend with the Holy Spirit; the less you will have to ask what the Will of God is for your life. "Smile"

3. Circumstances

Let me be clear; God’s WILL is not controlled by our circumstances, but sometimes He will use them to help us see what we should or should not be doing.

For example; God is not going to tell you to apply to the Master’s program at Duke University next week; if you didn’t listen to Him when He told you to apply to finish your GED.

This is what I call practical and spiritual common sense within your present circumstance.

Now, sometimes God will perform a miracle regardless of the natural circumstances but this normally takes place in the midst of your obedience; not in the midst of your rebellion towards His Word.

Here’s another example: Let’s say you meet someone and you believe that it is the Will of God for you to marry them; but you find out that this person is married already. Well, circumstances just dictated that what you THOUGHT was the Will of God, was WRONG because marrying them would violate the Word of God and the governmental laws…. Again, (Practical and Spiritual Common Sense)

4. Dreams & Visions

Throughout the Bible, God has spoken to His people through dreams and visions. As a matter of fact, in Joel 2:17: He promised that this is exactly what would happen after the Holy Spirit was poured out.

So, there is no doubt in my mind that at times God expresses His Will through our dreams & visions; but we must remember that every dream should first be filtered through the written Word of God and wise counsel before we decide to walk it out.

Since dreams can come from other sources like late night movies, snacks or demonic influence: it’s very important that we share our dreams with Godly, trustworthy and discerning people before we move forward….

5. People

One of the most amazing ways that God expresses His Will, is through other people. God has the power to speak to you through your friend, a preacher, a parent, a coworker, your pastor, a sibling or even a child. 

This doesn’t mean that we should walk around always asking people, what the Will of God is; but it does mean that we should be open to God using others to express His Will to us.

It would be arrogant to think that God only speaks to YOU about YOU. With that being said, it is still very important to use the written Word of God as your filter, regardless of who is speaking.

QUESTION: What do you do if you have to make a decision and you can't find this blog, you can't find the right scripture and no one is around?

ANSWER: Simply say a quick and sincere prayer and then remember this scripture.......

So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. ~ 1st Corinthians 10:31

At times, I believe that we over think and over analyze what God wants us to do Sometimes, you just need to make a decision with faith and confidence.

The key is to make a decision that is consistent with human flourishing and honoring to God.

If you are making a decision, with the intentions of loving God and loving others; DON'T complicate what's been made simple for you already.

Lastly, as I've stated throughout this blog post; the best way to know God's WILL for your life, is to take time to get to know Him.

After all, He created you so He knows what's best for your life.


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